We all have dirt floors, why are you sweeping yours?

"We all have dirt floors, why are you sweeping yours?" I’m a picture person so this is a good visual for me. Think about it, there was a time when most homes had floors that were the ground itself, dirt. Think about all the other things the women were already doing. Now picture a woman in the village that hears another woman is coming over, so she frantically starts trying to sweep the dirt out of her home. It doesn’t make sense, right? Would you agree it is a bit ridiculous? Why? Because everyone has dirt floors! For all you mom’s that do not know, we ALL have toys/laundry/dishes and even *gasp* dirt. Here’s the thing, if we all have it, why are we trying to hide it? I remember when I used to go over to other women’s houses for different things, and they would be spotless and immaculate. Usually not even a toy or dish to be seen out of place. I also remember my mom turning into nothing short of psycho before we had anyone come over, sorry mom. Raise your hand if you have ever stuffed something in the ottoman or in the bedroom before someone came over, just so your home looked less lived in? I’m raising both hands. I’m the mom who thought I needed to organize my kid’s toys by style in their bins and alphabetize their bookshelf, because that’s what I thought good moms do. You know what good mom’s do? We play with our kids, we live in houses where there are spots on carpets, fingerprints on the walls, and even dirt on the baseboards. If you happen to live in a spotless house every moment of the day and you have children, please teach me your ways. I just want to know who set these unrealistic and very stressful standards. Why are we doing this to not only ourselves but to others? I’m done pretending. Yes, I clean my home but I am not going to make it look like it isn’t lived in. I refuse to continue to try to be someone I am not. I am a great mom, who lives a very busy life. Everything isn’t always put together or done. So, if another mom wants to come over I promise to not organize my toy bins or hide my laundry piles in an unseen room. An old proverbs says “It takes a village.” Ladies, we are a village, a community of women just trying to do this thing called life. This whole front we try to put on to make it look like we have it all “together” needs to stop. We are creating our own cycle between us. We are leading the women around us, the younger generations, to believe these lies that we lead pinterest picture lives. We judge ourselves because our house doesn’t look like our neighbors, our neighbors judge themselves for similar reasons. Stop all the judgement, let go of the guilt. Scoot the laundry pile over and invite a friend in. Please for the love, stop taking creatively angled pictures that hide your mess, or not posting a great pic of your kid because there happens to be a hanger on the floor behind them. Come on ladies, let’s be real with each other. We’ve got this!